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Update. Let the healing begin..,AGAIN!


  Here I am not able to sleep. Partially because of pain but mostly anxiety. Plus the dog curled up in my lap constantly does not help the hot flashes, but it’s ok I need the snuggling to get me through this. 

 Boomer snuggling with me  Tomorrow I get to see my new breasts!! And maybe have a drain removed ( I hate them they are horribly sore) I really hope this was the last surgery, and believe me this one was a doozie!!! Constant pulling and pressure. 

The first day home was a huge struggle to get the pain meds right. The second day started running a fever, highest it went was 100.9, whew just missed going to Er. I have tendencies to run fevers after all my surgeries. I think it has something to do with my Lupus. Having a fever to go along with everything else was pretty unbareable. But I can see some cleavage!! At least there is cleavage at the end of this tunnel!ūüöā 

I’m just so uncomfertable with the two drains and not being able to lift my arms. My husband has been a fantastic caregiver as always, I don’t know if I could do it for someone else.

My son has also been a huge help, but you know 15yr olds busy with friends and work. Sadly to say this is “normal” for him lol. I do feel this entire cancer thing has made him a better person. I see a lot of compassion from him and he has a tendency to always help someone in need. ( plus he does his own  wash! Your welcome future wife! Just don’t meet him for like 13-14yrs from now I’m not quite ready to cut the apron strings ūüėĀ)

I’ll be back in a few days with an update of how my girls are going

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To My person

To My person

Happy Valentine’s Day to one and all especially to my love, my husband. You’ve been through what I can only imagine as a nightmare for a husband to endure, dealing with all the ups and downs that we have been though our past four years of marriage. (And even before that)

You are always there to make me laugh in my darkest hours and make my best days even better. There is no one in the world I would have rather been with on this long, and some times crappy journey then with you. You are an amazing person and your love has gotten me through so much. As we are about to face our next obstacle I know it will make us even stronger then before. Thank you for having the patience to take care of me on my worst days. And for not caring that the big C has changed the way I look, you make me feel more beautiful then ever.

You are the love of my life…you’re my person.

All I needed to know in life, I learned from having breast cancer! (hint,hint it has to do with friends & family)


Amongst all this crap I have been through in the past two years I have to thank my family and friends. Without them I would not have the strength to get through all of this. Without them I would not have found my cancer (Pat!!)!! I love you all dearly!!! My husband and son are so amazing!! Both of you are my angels and you are my heart!!Thank you for helping me on my worst days and being there for my best days, without either of you I would be missing a piece of myself!!

My son Branden and husband Rick

Rick and myself a month and a half before I was diagnosed. Man I miss that 80’s hair!!!But I do like my chemo curls lol.

These are the pictures from when Jessica and I cut my hair off in April 2011. We laughed, we cried but we made it fun!! The hair in the garbage can after looked like a Shih Tzu LMAO!!

Mohawk with the classy rat-tail, very early 90’s

a good friend shaves your head




These pictures below¬†where from mother’s day 2011, all I wanted to do was sit and smell the salt air. I was to sick for anything else, but it made me so happy!!

Myself and Branden on Mothers day 2011

Rick and myself

Pink party at the melting pot, 2/2011 right after my lumpectomy.

The above picture is from Feb 2011. My friends had a pink party for me. Nothing better than a little fondue to pick up your   spirits!! What an amazing group of friends I have for doing all of this!

Pink drinks!!

marshmallows for dipping, mine looked like boobs lol take notice the one had a dent in it, just like mine!!!


 These next group of shots are from when my friends surprised me with a night out in a PINK LIMO!!! They had shirts made and all wore pink. What a way to celebrate being in remission. Again THANK YOU ALL!! This time you got me to cry lol.

Jenny Mac and Gen

The HOT pink limo!! My celebration of being in remission 11/2011

Jb, Lorin and myself

J boogs and myslef

Pink night to celebrate me being in remission!!

ok you got me with the surprise!!

The girls

I have learned though all of this, that all you need in life is a good family and good friends. Both will get you a long way, no matter what your battle is. I LOVE YOU ALL!! XOXO THANK YOU FOR BEING MY FAMILY AND FRIENDS

My reason for sharing.


Hi my name is Heather I am¬†37 yrs old and as of this week I¬† am 12¬†months in remission from breast cancer,yay! ¬†Ok , that sounded like a AA meeting opening LOL. This is not gonna be a gloom and doom blog about¬†breast¬†cancer (maybe a little¬†wining from time to time lol). And I am not all about the must do’s and don’t of it either (however I believe you must be your own health advocate). I feel if it works for you then do it. I have learned though out this process A LOT of humor goes a long way, especially every time¬†I go for a follow-up¬†mammo¬†they¬†alway see something that turns out to be nothing. unfortunately¬†this week was a mammo¬†week, and YES they found something, REALLY ? This week¬†¬†is my year anniversary of being in remission, I guess someone forgot to send¬†a memo to my boob!¬† It is what it is, and I will soon find out what needs to be done. So here we go once again, I get felt up by everyone and anyone,¬†my boobs didn’t get this much action in college¬†for¬†goodness¬†sake lol!¬†One of the things my father always said to me was “make sure in life you have a good sense of humor”, that was the best thing he could have said to me. So be aware at times I have a sick sense of humor. It makes me laugh and some others laugh too, so what the hell if you gonna¬†look like shit and feel like shit, you might as well make a sick joke about it!! It was suggested to me by a few people to start this blog because in the past two years I have been to hell and back,not just with the breast cancer. So if I can make someone laugh or inspire someone that¬†life after cancer and other things does go on, then the battle I have fought has been all worth it ūüôā

Before there was cancer it was just us.



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